Posts Tagged love

Couch Mouse House – Responding to Jon Acuff

I read this provoking article by Jon Acuff, a frankly brilliant writer whom you should all make certain to connect with.

In it, he discusses how those with attachment disorders hoard rubbish.

‘Often, the people lose their kids in order to maintain their hoarding lifestyle. The trash is more important. The numbness that hoarding offers is too enticing and you watch in shock as everything in life is given up so that a homeowner can crawl back inside a warm rubbish cocoon.’

Sin is often costly and like the hoarding disorder, often irrational. Hoarding pain, guilt, anxiety for many is a dangerous obsession. It packs the heart full of bitterness. As cliché as it sounds, ‘hurt people, hurt people’. To hoard guilt is to inflict that pain on others.

I am challenged by Jon’s prophetic words which indeed speak into my heart. Perhaps I should stop denying that I do it. That is, hoarding self-hate as if I’m making an investment into the ‘piety’ account. All I am really doing is dishing out pain to those who are close and warning off those who might want to come near.

Perhaps Jon’s words challenge what I believe about repentance and forgiveness. I totally believe the Lord transforms one’s social experience when one repents. Perhaps I have forgotten that the Lord also gave us things like thoughts, feelings, emotions which are also redeemed when he forgives us. Read the rest of this entry »

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Valentines Blessing

It hurts me to write this. Really, I’d rather dip my face in burning acid than admit it, but one of the clearest and most blessed ways by which God reveals himself is by the union of man and woman.

Marriage shows the perfect representation of the invisible God, as together man and woman are in his likeness. Similarly, those who are married can testify to the Gospel of Jesus Christ and the mystery of his love for the Church.

So these words I want to bless those who are married and those who are on the way towards it.

May the Spirit of the Divine
Bind you to one another
With the ties of love and service
Obedience and honour
Which are good and right in the sight of God

May you learn together what it means to be human
Formed in the image of the Most Holy

May you bring honour to Jesus through your conduct and conscience
Glorifying our Risen Saviour
And baring witness to the great Lover
The Bridegroom who loves his people

May God be pleased to manifest his presence with you
And may he rejoice over you
His dear children

Amen

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Born again, again

It happened again. You know, that thing.

I don’t know what it is for you, but for me it’s always that one thing which seems to be the measure of my faith. If I do this thing, or don’t do that thing, then I know I’m a Christian. I know I’m saved.

But I failed again. I did that act or thought that thought or didn’t do that thing I was supposed to do.

And so, I know I must again pray:

Dear God, forgive me.
I’m sorry for failing you.
Help me not do do it again, please be near me now

Amen

I’ve memorised several of these prayers and I cycle them round each time I fail God. I pray them fairly often. I come to Christ to be forgiven and receive new birth, again.

What about you? I spend vast amounts of my time feeling like a failure, failing God, failing the expectations of others and failing my expectations of myself.

I just don’t want to do that one thing anymore! Read the rest of this entry »

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If I shall not be one with a woman, who shall I be one with?

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen 2:24)

I was created with the desire to be with a woman.

Adam, in the garden of Eden – even before sin seperated him from God – desired the company of another person. God heard this desire, and made for man a companion, like him yet different. Equally in God’s image, yet not in the image of the man. She was woman. Different. Unique. The only one right for the man.

And so the Biblical theology of marriage is that it is a union that existed first in the perfect presence of God.

Marriage, the union of man and woman for life, was the climax of the creation. You can see this, because it was the last act before sin entered the Garden. Humans most fully reflect the nature of God in this union.

So then it is natural for man to desire woman.

He comes pre-loaded with all these desires and feelings he wants to share with a woman.

He comes with a space ready in his spirit that the woman can fill.

I was created with the desire to be with a woman.

I have this space in my spirit for a woman to fill.

I am pre-loaded with desires and feelings I want to share with a woman.

Yet as it is, and as it may be for many years, I am single. Read the rest of this entry »

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